Which success requires attention?

Success is nothing but the way we perceive them, makes all the difference.

We have been with success and failures at all verges of life at all times. We have been around most successful people, we have been around clumsiest people, we have been around frustrated people, we receive many energies from different energy field.The question is which success requires attention? Or does success ever require attention? It’s a personal choice, to share or not to share? Instead of if success requires attention or not, the question is what is success? Do we have the same conclusion about success? Definitely not.

Let me start with the recent success story that drove me to sleepless nights. Miss Nepal, Shrinkhala getting into Harvard was my latest inspiration to be precise. Though, I have been fortunate enough to have amazing classmates, literally all of them who inspire me everyday. Sometimes they just inspire me so much that I feel so motivated to do more than the present state, in case of hardwork and perseverance. So coming back to the Harvard story, I am not such a Shrinkhala Khatiwada fan but the way she has carried herself, I truly admire her for that. She made me believe in placing our opinion, to walk the unpaved way and giving a willingness to just do whatever be the result. Does everyone like Shrinkhala Khatiwada? No, for cent. Was everybody happy with her every action? No, again. Was she born to please everyone? No, again. I saw my sister’s Insta story where she was literally rooting for her as if this success was hers. I had felt the exact way about her Harvard acceptance but Insta story on a private account? That was huge, and I felt my sister was so moved with this achievement of life-work-education balance of hers. That very day, I dreamt of going abroad for education because I don’t know. It didn’t come out of imitation for sure but I think it gave me the belief in the power of dreams. We girls especially confine our dreams so much and for the first time, i wanted to fly beyond this country. To my surprise, all of my sisters felt the same way one way or another. But I am not quite aware everybody took the same way. People criticized comparing a village student getting admission in government school and all, which was also politically correct. But I have realized that success stories don't hit everyone the same positive way. It is probably because we create such a hype about success and many times in a negative manner. But ya true is the case, the one who gets a name is defamed(Jo hain naamwala wohi badnaam hain, lol). Why can’t a success story be a light snack for us humans? I have hated social media as a free market for sharing success stories someday when I myself isn’t going through something right. But I think the problem lies in my mental state and environmental situation. Moreover, I know for a fact I have compared myself with them and that person would have no idea what that small story impacted me negatively as well. As humans, we don’t take things lightly.

Success is different for every person. It can be a person earning a penny in a day or a person setting up a multi-billionaire company. It is an individual success, there is no comparison. The thing about success is that people think it’s bragging or creating unnecessary buzz but is it that all about? All success stories are all about wanting others to envy you? Are all stories about showing off? It’s a choice, for one one willing to share and for the other one of not perceiving the way others want them to perceive. Both are correct. But as humans, why are we so selfish to be unwilling to hear someone’s success story? Why does it hurt us? Why was I hurted slightly when the other person was working his/her ass off? Why doesn't it inspire but create a wrong impression? Why is the success of another person not taken lightly? Success should not get on anyone’s head, either of that person receiving achievement or one listening to it. It’s just one temporary phase of one person’s life, I want to highlight a temporary phase of life. Everyone has different priorities and noone is less than the other in any way. Nobody is successful all the time. One should definitely count that, with which speed you reach the top you are likely to bounce on the ground with even painful speed to bear. Of any successful person, do we even bother trying to understand the person? Or knowing their background story? NO. Then these eyes don’t have any right to judge too. You are not part of a story, then you have no right to place an opinion on someone else’s story either positively or negatively.

What makes a success story a true success story? Which success requires attention? If you ask me.

It’s not any number, acceptance, recognition or fame. If you know me personally, any such glitters don’t fascinate me.

 A true success story is a person’s will to get rid of a bad day and stepping out in all chaos with a left share of confidence in the world again facing the judgemental eyes, fake and real hearts and people desperately wanting either your success or downfall. With every hell you surpassed and with more hell ready in your future, just living a life with a ray of belief that this shall pass. That’s a phase of life.

 Success is always expecting the another face to kiss it tomorrow. That is why the consistency is burdensome. So, it should never be a reason to be  arrogant  of. In short, you are replaceable. Success leaves very small room for improvement but failure keeps you grounded, and failure is a better teacher that keeps your spark burning. Not all success stories require attention, to be honest it just sucks. But not all are meant with wrong intentions too.

For the record, I would love chatting with people who fail more than successful people. Because successful people have ideas to be successful but the failed ones have the desire to live another day to prove them and lessons on resilience, which I value more personally.