Why do women safeguard male supremacy
There are these women in our society at alarming rates, the moral police women, women who are so adept at teaching other women how to be a good woman, an ideal woman, they know it all.
And it all begins and ends with: men. How men should be bequeathed with respect at all times in its highest form.
It seems as though they have been personally appointed to maintain the sanctity of male supremacy in society.
It makes you wonder, have they never in their life felt the wish, the want to be as equal as a man, to live in the superiority and supremacy of being a man. I am sure that every woman at some point in her life has hated a man for all the privileges he is born with and is inundated with all his life, while all she can do is stand on the sidelines and drool over it.
When these women see a woman, the other kind, who dares to say or do something that questions or even just points a finger at this disparity, she runs amok and creates a ruckus, cause this might disrupt a man’s place, it sends a slight shiver of dismantlement of existing traditions and unwritten laws, this might shake the predominance of men over women, and this must be contained before it gets out of hand. This is where these women rise up to the occasion to fulfil their calling, to hold up the tradition of male supremacy, to hold it upright and keep it intact, unless these other women try to infiltrate it with their absurd ideas.
I wondered, why don’t these women see it as a new dawn for women, for her own. Why is she so adamant and ironically proud to uphold these traditions that are in the favour of men, and forsake those that might just turn out to give her some leverage. Why is she so against it? Why the need to rush and support and save such traditions that are a total injustice to women.
Why when a woman tries to free herself from the chains and bondage of male supremacy, that has tied her down, these women feel the need to chain her down again and keep her there and make sure that she stays there. Why?
No, not the men.
Always the women who see a slight deviation as sacrilege and are ready to pounce on these other women.
I always felt anger and irritation at such women and could never understand this behaviour of theirs.
And then, a few days ago I was introduced to a text, which was a window to this world, it gave a glimpse of the schooling that women have received, and how they have been conditioned to think and act the way they do.
It’s all thanks to the wonderful men.
Shrewd, conniving men, who have it in written word, what an ideal women should be like. These words that have for ages been read aloud to groups of women, compelling them to believe that this is the fundamental truth that they need to adhere to and enforce upon others as well.
To maintain this adulation of women, men have used a mixture of some pretty unscrupulous statements and that very potent feeling — fear.
Seemingly beautiful lines and fear go hand in hand, as expedient tools, as women have been led by men to believe these statements as the ultimate truth.
These words might even seem hilarious to us now, may not be religiously followed or believed in, but its core still holds such a strong influence in our society. These words over the years have seeped into generations and have become so pervasive in our society, that they direct and govern the values we hold and the morals we stand by.
It is modified and upgraded versions of these statements that girls from a young age and all through her life are taught by well meaning mothers and grandmothers and aunts and mother in laws and neighbours, on how a woman should talk and walk in front of a man, how to always honour and respect a man, and more importantly, they let women know, a woman’s place in the relationship between a man and a woman, and eventually a woman’s place in society.
Woman pitted against woman, for the luxurious convenience of a man.
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These are a few loosely translated versions of the texts that women for ages have been made to believe are the yardstick to measure the worth of a woman, to be the most ideal woman a woman can ever be — a patibrata nari.
Even if your husband is an alcoholic, greedy, a coward, a fraud, like a demon, is an idiot, is dangerous, condemned, a womanizer………..a patibrata wife should worship him like a god, showing complete devotion through her words, body and actions.
When the husband is out of town, a patibrata wife should not cleanse her body parts properly, wear dirty clothes, should not put on tika, gaajal, any perfumes and garlands. She should not brush her teeth, cut her nails or shave. However, while the husband is home, after completing her household chores, a woman should clean her body with turmeric powder and do make up that intensifies her beauty, then go to her husband completely devoted with her soul, body and words.
If a woman wants to bathe at a pilgrimage site, she can drink the water of her husband’s feet, because for a woman her husband is superior to even god.
And these are some of the repercussions:
If a woman loses her temper and answers back to her husband, in her next life she will be born as a bitch or a jackal.
If a woman decides to go for a walk alone, without her husband, in her next life she will be a swine or an animal that eats its own poop.
A woman who is always jealous of her sauta will become a vidhwa in her next life.
If a widow (except mother) gives you a blessing then a sensible woman should rebuff it as it is venomous.
And so on and so forth.
And to top it off:
For a woman, her husband is her god, her guru, her religion, her pilgrimage, that is why a woman should relinquish everything and worship her husband.