The dilemma: wait longer or move on

Do you ever feel caught in two-mind between waiting or moving on? Something or someone you like? Maybe a girl or a boy you had a huge crush on? Or a job you badly wanted but they put you on hold and take a lifetime to reply to your application?

If you have this dilemma, then let me tell you, you are not alone. I am one of those who always get stuck on these similar scenarios. The toughest thing is to exactly fix the time and say "After this, I will move on".

If you are overthinker like me, the choice is extremely difficult. The questions that begin with "what if' always lingers. What if I wait long and it never happens? What if I leave and it magically happens at that time? These what-if questions in your overthinking brain and boom, in no time you are depressed.

Although there is no perfect solution to this dilemma, I am going to some steps that best work for me to decide between these two choices.

a) Take time and Analyse both the situations:

Before jumping to a conclusion, have a quick look at both sides of choices. Take a sufficient amount of time away from work or study. Not all people are a quick decision-maker and it's okay if you are not. 

b) Find something you love than constant thinking between dilemma:

You may feel I may be contradicting the first point. However, constant though of your dilemma can make you depressed and mentally weak. Take some time away from your dilemma and do something you love doing. It can be writing your thoughts, playing the guitar, singing or just hanging with your friends. Doing something you like will not only make you happy but also provide you a clear thought to make the decision.

c) Talk to your friend if necessary:

If you have a hard time to decide then talk to a friend who understands you. While it is completely natural that you don't want to bother your friends, asking for a little advice is never a bad idea. Just give them a little detail and ask them what they think about the situation. At times our friends can provide insights that we are not able to see.

d) Decide what is best for you and stick to it:

After the first three steps, you probably will have an idea about whether you want to wait or just leave. The decision, however, must be made by you and only you. The decision must not cost you your happiness.

Then, after you make the decision, chances are you have the urge to go back. It's natural to feel that, however you must stick to whatever you have decided.

e)You cannot make everyone happy and it's okay:

Your decision at the end of the day can hurt a few people. It can be your boss or a friend that is not happy with the decision you make and it is okay. At the end of the day, it's your life and you are choosing your happiness and it's okay.

f) Let go of regrets:

Mostly, if you are an overthinker then you will have thoughts about 'what if I had chosen different'. While this is perfectly fine to think, you must not waste must of your energy much there. You have made a decision about what you thought would make you happy or successful, and you should not regret there.

We all indeed have the dilemma between waiting and moving on. However, we can conquer this dilemma with a proper time out of our life and proper analysis.